"I Used to Be Fun" Reclaiming Your Spark in Midlife
"I wasn’t going to admit but the festival made me feel my age. Being so short, the last festival I went to (nothing like the ones today, much smaller and tamer by comparison), I was lifted up and parked on a stranger’s shoulders to see the acts on stage. But at this festival, Kim and I thought we were more like Weeble’s who wobble but don’t fall down. It would take two guys to get us up on their shoulders. Anyway, we had no offers. Gone were those days" (BUCK! Fiona’s story)
Remember Fiona? In battling life's curveballs, she seems to have misplaced her vibrant, joyful self - the Fiona of yesteryear. Let’s reassure her that her spark, the pocket rocket, is still within. She’s not alone. This same feeling resonates with countless women in midlife. All are facing hormonal shifts and significant life events with responsibilities that can dim the inner light.
Allowing for a period of recovery, how can you and the Fionas of this world reignite your spark?
Let’s look at BUCK’s guide to ignition:
1. New Chapter, Not the End
Experiencing mood swings and energy dips lately? Turns out, it's not just you – those pesky hormones are in play. But they needn’t dictate your mood. It’s time to understand them and how to manage them. Like that article you saw on Facebook, it's about accepting these changes and knowing that you're not broken, just evolving!
2. Fun Isn't Just Fancy Holidays (Though Who Doesn't Love Them!)
Forget the pressure to have extravagant fun. Remember those simple things that used to set your heart alight? Maybe spending time with your loved ones, painting, dancing, or even just losing yourself in a good book by the pool on a girlie weekend. Trying new things can be a game-changer. Reconnect with what truly makes you smile.
3. Sisterhood is Powerful (and Mocktails Can Still Be Fun)
Recall those endless giggles with your girls over weekend getaways? Those connections aren't just fun, they're essential! Like that Guardian article you came across, strong bonds boost your mood and make you feel good. So, reconnect with your old friends, join a book club, or volunteer for a cause you care about. Laughter, shared experiences, makes you feel like you belong – and that's the magic ingredient. Also, online communities can be amazing too, especially when you need a different perspective or a broader reach.
4. Me-Time Isn't Selfish, It's Essential (Plus, Pampering Can Be Fun!)
Life can feel busy, but taking care of yourself isn't a luxury, it's a must! Think of it like recharging your batteries. Meditation, yoga, a walk in the park – whatever helps you de-stress and feel alive again. Nature is a powerful mood-booster too! And don't forget healthy food and good sleep – they're also essential to feeling your best. Self-care isn't selfish, so indulge in a long bubble bath, or simply enjoy some quiet time with BUCK! and a soothing beverage.
5. Celebrate the Small Wins (Because Every Glimmer of Hope Counts!)
Rather than chasing grand gestures, it's the little things that matter most. Savour that delicious cup of coffee, appreciate the kind word from a stranger, or simply admire the beauty of a sunset while strolling with a friend. As Maya Angelou said, "It's the little things that make the big things great." So keep all your senses tuned in for those pleasure bursts coming your way.
You're still that vibrant, funny woman with a spirit that shines bright. You've overcome challenges before, and you can do it again. Go out there, embrace the new chapter, reconnect with your passions, and most importantly, reclaim your joy!
We’ll watch this space …
Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider for personalised guidance.